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How can I stay connected to my kids during deployment?

While divorce can be difficult under any circumstances, it can be even more of a challenge for people in the military. This is especially true when you’re deployed, which can make it tough to remain connected to your kids. Parents offers the following advice in this case, which will help you bond with your kids no matter where you are.

Have a means of communication

Being proactive vs being passive in a divorce

Getting divorced is a common experience, but that does not make it any less stressful. Nobody expects that their marriage will end, but when separation is the best option, you need to assess your options and determine what the best course of action will be. The outcome of your divorce will largely depend on whether you approach it proactively or passively—and the latter can leave you in the lurch.

Consider the following three ways that you can be proactive in your divorce and garner a positive outcome for yourself and your family.  

What should I know about parallel parenting?

Divorcing couples in Kentucky who share custody must work together to make major decisions regarding their children. When their relationships are contentious working together can be nearly impossible, and a failure to do so will impact their kids for many years going forward. In this case, parallel parenting may be a good solution for high-conflict relationships, as explained by Psychology Today.

What is parallel parenting?

Relocating with your kids

One of the most common questions that we here at The Grinnell Firm, PSC receive is whether divorced parents are able to move away from Richmond with their kids. Your reasons for contemplating such an action may be understandable; you may find an opportunity for employment elsewhere, or you may simply find that remaining in the same area recalls too many painful memories from your marriage. Whatever your reasons, you should first know that you are allowed to move away. However, taking your kids with you requires that you follow Kentucky's criteria for parental relocation. 

That criteria can be found in the state's Family Court Rules of Procedure and Practice. Regardless of whether you have sole or joint custody of your kids, you must provide both the court and your ex-spouse with notice of your intent to relocate. Such a notice must include the following information: 

  • The location that you wish to move to (along with your new address)
  • The date you plan to leave
  • What effect (if any) the move may have on your custody arrangement

Keeping your TRICARE coverage

As a military spouse, you no doubt had to make sacrifices to support your husband or wife's career. One of the primary trade-offs for that sacrifice was likely the benefits you enjoyed due to his or her service. Health insurance coverage through TRICARE was probably one of the most important. Now that you are preparing for a divorce and looking ahead to your life in Richmond, you might be worried about how you will be able to replace that coverage. Several of the clients that we here at The Grinnell Firm, PSC have worked with have shared the same concern. You will be happy to hear (as they were) that such coverage can continue even after your divorce. 

According to TRICARE's website, your coverage can continue after your divorce provided you meet one of the following two qualifications: the "20/20/20 Rule" (which has been detailed on this blog in the past) or the "20/20/15 Rule." The criteria for the 20/20/15 Rule is as follows: 

  • Your former spouse has 20 years of creditable services towards retirement pay 
  • You and your former spouse were married for at least 20 years
  • At least 15 years of your marriage overlapped his or her time credited towards his or her military retirement pay

How can I prepare for my custody hearing?

If you’re divorcing in Richmond, you’re most likely concerned about being prepared for the subsequent custody hearing. Whether you’re filing for joint or sole custody, it’s crucial that you have your case in order to make a good impression on the judge, who will be making decisions based on the best interests of the child. In this event, offers the following information to ensure parents have the tools they need to effectively communicate their case in court.

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3 tips for a faster divorce in Kentucky

It is no secret that divorce is costly, which is why some couples choose not to go through with it. While some expenses are inevitable no matter your circumstances, the rest you have more control over than you may think.

For example, dragging out the process raises the bill significantly. However, you can take these steps to shorten divorce proceedings and thus lower the cost.

Stop missing support payments as soon as possible

At the Grinnell Law Firm, PSC, we know that there are many reasons someone might miss a support payment or two. Temporary setbacks are part of everyone's lives in Kentucky, and sometimes these momentary hurdles get in the way of our clients' abilities to make good on their obligations to their former spouses or their children. 

We are also well aware that some setbacks are not as temporary as others. Life-changing events, such as an injury, relocation or a change in career, might leave an indelible mark on an individual's life, precluding him or her from fulfilling part or all of a divorce agreement. Luckily, we are often able to reforge these agreements within the constraints of state law in order to better fit our clients' new situation.

How can I talk to my kids about divorce?

Among the many difficult aspects of getting a divorce, talking to your kids about the matter is probably the most challenging. While your children are bound to feel a range of emotions, you can lessen the blow by approaching the subject in the appropriate manner. Accordingly, offers the following advice to parents in Kentucky to help them speak to their children about their impending divorce.

Plan Out What You Will Say

Can my tax refund be intercepted over back child support?

The divorce process can be difficult for many different reasons, such as the division of marital property and concerns about spousal support payments. However, child support is often an especially concerning issue for those with kids, from custodial parents who worry about their former partner's ability to make payments to non-custodial parents who fall behind on their obligations. If you have been unable to pay child support or worry that you will lose the ability to stay current because your job has been terminated, it is important to avoid falling behind and understand some of the consequences associated with back child support, such as tax refund interception.

According to the Office of Child Support Enforcement's website, parents who have unpaid child support may have their tax refund intercepted under the Federal Tax Refund Offset Program. Depending on the amount of back child support you owe, your tax refund may be intercepted partially or entirely. If your refund is offset, you will receive a notice, but this has caught many parents completely off-guard. Moreover, there may be other consequences associated with falling behind on payments, such as losing the ability to obtain a passport.

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